HEART OF THE MATTER
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. – Proverbs 4:23
I have coached hundreds of people. I have seen many of them make permanent positive changes. Others, not so much. Here’s what I can tell you, those that make permanent positive changes focus on changing the deepest part of themselves, their heart.
The Bible is clear we are three-part being, body, soul (intellect), and spirit. If we think of it as layers, say like an egg, then the physical body is the shell, the soul is the clear part (albumen) and the yellow part (yolk). It’s the yolk that produces the chicken. The clear part is what processes the additional nutrients for the yolk to grow. The outer part protects and allows the other two parts to function.
We are much like that egg. That’s why, when we work to change we can change a lot but it’s the yolk, the deepest part of us that grows, matures and eventually breaks through the outer shell producing new life.
How does that translate to us? Simple, if you want to make a lasting change and break out of your “shell” so to speak, you must do things that impact your spirit/heart. The result will be an eventual long-lasting growth into new areas of our lives.
We must also define the heart. So what is the “heart” of a person? A Venn diagram (3 circles overlapping) should help. One circle is physical, the other our intellect, and finally emotions. The point where all three intersect is our heart/spirit.
People who have a “change of heart” don’t just have a change in thought but in actions and emotions. For example, when I attend church I am impacting all three. When I stand to sing I’m impacting my physical body (standing, singing, clapping, etc.), emotions (feelings created by music notes), and intellectually the words I’m reading or thinking about. Same is true of the minister’s sermon. If done well it will impact me intellectually, emotionally, and physically.
Many things impact us physically and emotionally: lifting weights, driving fast, etc. Many things impact us emotionally and intellectually: reading a good story, watching a good movie, etc.
Many things impact us physically and emotionally: funeral, wedding, etc.
However, it’s the activities, actions, and events that impact all three areas (physical, emotional, and intellectual) that begin to change our core and allow us to hatch out of our shell to a whole new world.
What are you working on that’s changing your heart? How might you be better if you focused on the deepest part of you and not just the intellect? Or just emotions? Or just physicality?
If you are deciding to take on a new endeavor ask yourself, does it move me emotionally, intellectually, and physically (by taking action)? Then and only then will you grow into the permanent change you want to see.